I always end up in relationships that are going nowhere. Why is there no one out there for me!
You’re not alone. This is, perhaps, the most commonly asked question among those who have yet to find that special someone. You might begin by asking yourself these important questions:
What are you looking for?
Most people have no idea what they are looking for and, therefore, unintentionally end up in the same co-dependent patterns that haven’t worked for them in the past. Our prototype for relationship comes mostly from our primary image-makers (the mother/father figures in our lives). The more consciously aware we are of the patterns contained within that prototype and what does or doesn’t work for us, the more we are able to create co-empowered relationships.
The tell-tale sign of a co-dependent relationship is “need”. The more comfortable you are in your own skin, the less you need someone else to “complete” you or reinforce what you already believe.
Look at the common thread in all of your past relationships. What co-dependent patterns were continually reinforced? Where did those patterns originate? What needs to change?
What do you believe?
Let’s take a look at the statement, “There is no one out there for me.” This belief could be your greatest barrier. These are the words of someone who has stopped seeing opportunities to connect.
Our thoughts and beliefs are powerful tools that are used either consciously or unintentionally to create our present circumstances. If we believe that there is no suitable partner for us, we will see all opportunities for connection through the filter of judgment and create a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Fear-based beliefs create closed symbols that stop us from living life and actually limit our choices. In this case, connecting to others on an intimate level may have become a closed symbol for you. Tell yourself the truth about what you believe. You have not met everyone and, therefore, it is not possible to honestly say that there is no one out there for you.
We all hold some beliefs that are fear-based. Your belief may be acting as a buffer, protecting you from the possibility of feeling pain. This buffer also protects you from feeling love and finding what you’re looking for.
To open this closed symbol, it is necessary to risk opening your heart and feeling fully.
For more information on how to create healthy relationships, contact Leia Gamache at WhiteFire Coaching at 403.875.7594.
You’re not alone. This is, perhaps, the most commonly asked question among those who have yet to find that special someone. You might begin by asking yourself these important questions:
What are you looking for?
Most people have no idea what they are looking for and, therefore, unintentionally end up in the same co-dependent patterns that haven’t worked for them in the past. Our prototype for relationship comes mostly from our primary image-makers (the mother/father figures in our lives). The more consciously aware we are of the patterns contained within that prototype and what does or doesn’t work for us, the more we are able to create co-empowered relationships.
The tell-tale sign of a co-dependent relationship is “need”. The more comfortable you are in your own skin, the less you need someone else to “complete” you or reinforce what you already believe.
Look at the common thread in all of your past relationships. What co-dependent patterns were continually reinforced? Where did those patterns originate? What needs to change?
What do you believe?
Let’s take a look at the statement, “There is no one out there for me.” This belief could be your greatest barrier. These are the words of someone who has stopped seeing opportunities to connect.
Our thoughts and beliefs are powerful tools that are used either consciously or unintentionally to create our present circumstances. If we believe that there is no suitable partner for us, we will see all opportunities for connection through the filter of judgment and create a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Fear-based beliefs create closed symbols that stop us from living life and actually limit our choices. In this case, connecting to others on an intimate level may have become a closed symbol for you. Tell yourself the truth about what you believe. You have not met everyone and, therefore, it is not possible to honestly say that there is no one out there for you.
We all hold some beliefs that are fear-based. Your belief may be acting as a buffer, protecting you from the possibility of feeling pain. This buffer also protects you from feeling love and finding what you’re looking for.
To open this closed symbol, it is necessary to risk opening your heart and feeling fully.
For more information on how to create healthy relationships, contact Leia Gamache at WhiteFire Coaching at 403.875.7594.
